It can be very challenging to maintain a positive attitude and a measure of faith when you are in the midst of difficult times. This is partly because we tend to think that if the universe loves us we will experience that love in the form of positive circumstances. However, we are like children, and the universe is our wise mother who knows what our souls need to thrive better than we do. Just as a young child does not benefit from getting everything she wants, we also benefit from times of constriction and difficulty to help us grow and learn. If we keep this in mind, and continue to trust that we are loved even when things are hard, it helps us bear the difficult time with grace.
This period of time in history is full of difficulty for a lot of human beings, and you may feel less alone knowing you are not being singled out. There are extreme energy changes pulsing through the universe at every level and, of course, we are all part of the growing process and the growing pains. It helps if we remember that life is one phase after another and that this difficult time will inevitably give way to something new and different. When we feel overwhelmed we can comfort ourselves with the wise saying: This too shall pass.
At the same time, if you truly feel that nothing is going right for you, it's never a bad idea to examine your life and see if there are some changes you can make to alleviate some of the difficulty. Gently and compassionately exploring the areas giving you the most trouble may reveal things you are holding onto and need to release: unprocessed emotions, unresolved transitions, or negative ways of looking at yourself or reality. As you take responsibility for the things you can change, you can more easily surrender to the things you can't, remembering all the while that this phase will, without doubt, give way to another.
Make Life Happen, Watch Life Happen, or Wonder What the Heck Happened?
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I don't think I would have ever used the word "victim" to describe myself. However, to be a victim is to feel like one has no choice, as if any situation we find ourselves in is being "done" to us and we have no recourse.
The truth is, we all have choices, always. Even if that choice is simply to refuse to feel like a victim no matter what the circumstances.
I've had an internal voice on repeat in the recent past. The voice constantly said, "I HAVE to do everything around here!" and only added to my sense of overwhelm. It stressed me and the people around me out.
Yes, I do have a lot of pressure and responsibilities. But the fact and truth is, I absolutely DO NOT have to do everything - nor do I do everything, nor have I ever done everything. The voice is just flat out wrong. With that voice, I was talking myself into being a victim. That helped nobody, least of all me!
Regardless of whether my feeling is positive or fair, it does well up inside of me. You may have similar internal monologues that you just can't shake. Getting to the bottom of why can help you kick them. Think about the underlying emotions, and ask what would happen if you did not do your personal "have to." For me, that goes something like this: If, in fact, I do not "do everything," or at least try, I feel irresponsible. If I feel irresponsible, I feel afraid. If I feel afraid, I feel resentful. If I feel resentful, I feel angry, and if I feel angry, I feel powerless, overwhelmed and depressed. Ugh. And I think many of you have felt what it's like to go there. Not good for any of us.
It kind of makes sense that I'd rather just try to "do everything" than feel powerless, overwhelmed and depressed, right? That still doesn't make it a strong course of action - try to do everything and you'll do nothing well.
When I recognized that I had a choice, I started making a new one. I started to delegate more to the amazing and talented team I've got working with me. Together, we are setting set a much clearer vision of what success looks like so that we can own it together. That way I can step back without those negative feelings of fear and irresponsibility.
So why didn't I just do this to start with, when it seems so obvious? I'd had the instinct, but for the longest time, I chose to ignore it. Do you have any such instincts inside you? Maybe it's time to act.
Remember, we can make life happen, watch life happen, or wonder what the heck happened?!
sista, i can understand how u r feeling now.my boy passed away when he reached 13yrs.the night i told him tt i would leave him to my mum cos i'm moving out n cant take care of him.we played together n slept together tt night.but next morning i felt him stiff below the bed. he was my precious who understood my feeling, my joy n my sadness.things tt i will share with him and nobody else.i consoled myself tt he left for a better course, even though i felt sad inside. we, human r just the same,matter time we hv to face such reality.we just hv to brace ourselves to be stronger, and not let those who left us worry for us. humans n pets r just the same,emotions n feelings.lets just relieved tt we once had our good n memorable time together, and the fond thoughts will always live inside us forever till the time we meet again. my condolense, take care
never hesitate.
Always use wisdom and act accordingly.
No harsh act, no another thought for pause.
What counts is called "to see with cleared heart, mind and eyes"
and so nothing will blur us, and so no fear shall consume us.
in terms of preparation, always believe one must be humble to take in help
be prepared to always remain the true balance, so that we can respond and react without going off balance
Does the thought you are now thinking take you where you want to go? If not, what thought would?
Gregg Levoy
American Journalist, Author and Professor
The following is NOT wishful thinking, it's the cold, hard truth: Once you form a desire for something to have or experience in your mind, IT BECOMES A REALITY in the world of thoughts. Then, because THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS... that reality immediately goes to work looking for expression somewhere in YOUR VICINITY. To facilitate this expression, UNDERSTAND that YOUR JOB has already been done... and that it's time to let the Universe takeover. This doesn't mean DO NOTHING, but it does mean that you can stop worrying, stop calculating, and stop second guessing, so that you can begin listening to the Universe through your own hunches and intuition. You're in AWESOME hands, just remember though, this works with all thoughts, your positive ones, and the other ones too.
seek and you shall find.
(原文来自圣经Matthew 7:7 - "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.)
我总是这样跟自己说。
今天做了一天的蛀米虫。
Bringing Out the Dead 不是不好看但是以我这种背痛而必须躺着的混蛋病人配以这种死人的慢节奏
马丁斯高斯西的大作完全drive me nuts
之前还看了奇怪的Birthday Girl虽然有迷死人的妮可基曼但还是差点吐白沫因为她一直讲一直讲俄语鬼会听啊又没有字幕Orz
终于看完了第四季的So You Think You Can Dance
又要等一年噜
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