[芷翎+静泓] 加了KL的照片[第57页]

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哈哈~ 恭喜阿兰~~~
bccj 发表于 18-5-2010 09:27 AM

哈哈！恭喜BCCJ也要成为妈妈了，而且还比我早生BB呢
加油加油！

bccj

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嗯~ 大家一起加油咯~

hongyy

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恭喜你咯！　
芷翎很有大姐的风范。

yippy_yaya

阿兰，恭喜你！！！
又加了成员。。。
是男还是女？
请问芷翎会懂将会做姐姐吗？？？她有常和你肚子说话吗？？？

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恭喜你咯！　
芷翎很有大姐的风范。
hongyy 发表于 19-5-2010 01:35 PM

谢谢

我的朋友看到芷翎，都说芷翎很粗鲁
她做什么东西都是很粗鲁，有时候还会动手和人抢玩具

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阿兰，恭喜你！！！
又加了成员。。。
是男还是女？
请问芷翎会懂将会做姐姐吗？？？她有常和你肚子说话 ...
yippy_yaya 发表于 27-5-2010 10:08 AM

谢谢

还不知道是男，是女哦

芷翎不会当姐姐，我有告诉她肚里的BB，但是她一直说＂不要，不要＂
所以只好慢慢的教芷翎SAYANG我的肚里的BB咯
有次我问她，要BB是妹妹还是弟弟，她就一直说妹妹
我问了几次，她都是说要妹妹哦

yippy_yaya

好可爱的芷翎！！
阿兰， 想问下。。。。当第2胎出生后，你如何分配时间来招顾bb和芷翎？你有打算在fully breastfeed 吗？

你怀孕的时候，还是可以照顾芷翎吗？芷翎 还有喝夜奶吗？

哈。。哈。。。
我想计划下我下一胎要几时有 和如何处里大的。。

yippy_yaya

ops!!
阿兰最近很忙吗？很久才看到你的post!!!
还有很久没看到芷翎了。。。

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好可爱的芷翎！！
阿兰， 想问下。。。。当第2胎出生后，你如何分配时间来招顾bb和芷翎？你有打算在fully breastfeed 吗？

你怀孕的时候，还是可以照顾芷翎吗？芷翎 还有喝夜奶吗？

哈。。哈。。。
我想计划下我下一胎要几时有 和如何处里大的。
yippy_yaya 发表于 10-6-2010 11:21 AM

我还没想到到时候会怎样哦

应该会喂人奶，但是不是FULLY BRESTFEDDING
之前芷翎的时候，我也是白天给芷翎喝人奶，晚上芷翎都是喝奶粉的

芷翎只是第一个月在陪月中心有喝夜奶
第二个月开始芷翎就没有喝夜奶了
芷翎通常都是睡觉前喝奶，然后就睡醒才喝奶了的

现在怀孕的时候哦，也是我一个照顾芷翎，
早上是我的丈夫载她去BB SITTER的家
我放工后就去载芷翎回家
回到家，PARKING在二楼，需要上到三楼才有电梯，所以我就牵芷翎的手慢慢的一步一步陪着走上楼梯

有时候芷翎在车上睡觉了，我就被逼要从CAR PARK抱她回家。

BB出世的时候，芷翎也两岁多了，所以应该是没有问题的

现在芷翎也懂很多东西了，她可以自己拿SPOON吃东西了
开始的时候吃到满地都是，现在越来越好了
要多多让小孩子自己去学习做，她就会学会了的

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ops!!
阿兰最近很忙吗？很久才看到你的post!!!
还有很久没看到芷翎了。。。
yippy_yaya 发表于 10-6-2010 11:23 AM

是咯，最近好忙
之前是一直忙工作，现在也是忙工作，只是因为怀孕了所以不需要时常到中国去。

而且怀孕了也很累，一直想要睡觉，所以回到家也懒惰开电脑了

最近都还在整理KUCHING TRIP的照片，所以几没有放芷翎其他的照片。

现在的芷翎很爱美，一直要我绑头发才出去的。

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这里有一些关于１岁到２岁的小孩的文章，但是很可惜是英文的
我看了觉得很有意思，所以放来和大家分享

Usually 1-2 years old children, we called Toddler.





TODDLER DEVELOPMENT
Cathy Malley
Cooperative Extension Educator, Child Development
Cooperative Extension Office
University of Connecticut

Copyright/Access Information


YOU WILL LEARN:
what to expect from toddlers.
that toddlers grow and develop at their own rate.
some activities that toddlers enjoy and that help them grow and develop.

TODDLERS
When children learn to walk, they are called toddlers. Usually this term is applied to one and two-year-old children. This is a stage in the growth of a child and not a specific age. The toddler stage is very important in a child's life. It is the time between infancy and childhood when a child learns and grows in many ways. Everything that happens to the toddler is meaningful. With each stage or skill the child masters, a new stage begins. This growth is unique to each child. Children have their own time-table. During the toddler stage, most children learn to walk, talk, solve problems, relate to others, and more. One major task for the toddler is to learn to be independent. That is why toddlers want to do things for themselves, have their own ideas about how things should happen, and use "no" many times each day.

The toddler stage is characterized by much growth and change, mood swings, and some negativity. Toddlers are long on will and short on skill. This is why they are often frustrated and "misbehave." Some adults call the toddler stage "the terrible twos." Toddlers, bursting with energy and ideas, need to explore their environment and begin defining themselves as separate people. They want to be independent and yet they are still very dependent. One of the family day care provider's greatest challenges is to balance toddlers' need for in-dependence with their need for discipline. Toddlers are very concerned with their own needs and ideas. This is why we cannot expect them to share.

Toddlers sometimes get frustrated because they do not have the language skills to express themselves. Often they have difficulty separating themselves from their parents and other people who are important to them. Adults who work with toddlers often find it helpful to appreciate toddlers' need to do things their way.

Usually between two and one half and three years of age, children begin to take an interest in being toilet trained, and by age three they are ready to be known as preschoolers. By this age, most children are toilet trained, have developed verbal skills, are continuing to be more independent, and are taking an active interest in the world around them.

The toddler stage can be a difficult for adults and toddlers. An understanding of this stage of development can make it more fun for everyone. This fact sheet lists some of the characteristics of toddlers. These characteristics are listed for three main areas: physical (body), social (getting along with others) and emotional (feelings), and intellectual (thinking and language) development. Remember that all toddlers are different and reach the various stages at different times.


PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT
ONE-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN
They may grow less quickly than during infancy.
They may eat less, but they tend to eat frequently throughout the day.
Most walk without support by 14 months.
Most walk backward and up steps by 22 months.
They get better at feeding themselves, although spills should still be expected.
They drink from a cup with help.
They can stack blocks.
They can scribble.

TWO-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN
Children are generally more active than at any other point in their lives.
They walk, run, climb, walk up and down stairs alone, and dig.
They throw balls and kick them forward.
They jump with two feet together.
They stand on tip toes.
They take things apart and put them back together. They like to screw and unscrew lids.
They feel discomfort with wet or soiled diapers.
They start to show an interest in toilet training.

SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT
ONE-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN
They want to do things independently.
Temper tantrums are common.
They enjoy playing by themselves or beside (not with) other children.
They have difficulty sharing toys. They may be possessive.
They cannot remember rules.
They view themselves as the center of the world.
They become increasingly more self-aware. They begin to express new emotions such as jealousy, affection, pride, and shame.
They show increasing fears.
They may continuously ask for their parents.
They have rapid mood shifts. Their emotions are usually very intense but short-lived.
Routines are very important.

TWO-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN
They begin to play simple pretend games. Their fantasy play is very short and simple. It does not involve others.
They are generally very self-centered and sharing is still difficult. They enjoy playing near other children.
They try to assert themselves by saying "no."
They sometimes do the opposite of what is asked.
They like to imitate the behavior of adults and others. They want to help with household tasks.
They become frustrated easily.
They refuse help.
They still need security.
They are more sure of themselves than one-year-old children.

INTELLECTUAL DEVELOPMENT
ONE-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN
They are curious.
They point to objects that they want.
They imitate animal sounds.
They name familiar people and objects.
They combine two words to form a basic sentence.
They use the pronouns me and mine.
They use "no" frequently.
They name body parts and familiar pictures.
They use objects for their intended purpose.
They begin to include a second person in pretend play.
Their attention span is short.
They can hold a pencil and scribble.
They are very active.
Because of their developing imagination, they have trouble knowing what is real and what is pretend.

TWO-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN
They follow simple directions.
They use three or more words in combination.
They express their feelings and wishes.
They use objects to represent other objects.
They still have a very limited attention span.
They can memorize short rhymes.
They join in simple songs.
They begin to think about doing something before doing it.
They have trouble making choices, but they want to make choices.

ACTIVITIES TO TRY
1. Take some time to watch your toddlers playing. Notice the differences in their physical development: height, weight, how they relate to you and to other children, and their energy levels. Some children seem to never sit still, while others seem happy to sit down with a book.

2. Toddlers learn by exploring and experimenting. They love to do things over and over. Some activities that toddlers enjoy are listed below.


ONE-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN
Roll a ball to them to catch.
Provide blocks for them to build with.
Provide safe mirrors for them to look at themselves in. Talk with them about their reflections in the mirror.
Let them fill containers over and over again.
Have them listen and move to music.
Play hide and seek.
Let them push or pull a favorite toy.
Provide wheeled toys without pedals.
Look at picture books with them and talk about the pictures.
Talk about the size, shape, and texture of everyday objects.
Make comparisons such as "this ball is bigger than that ball."
Talk about cause-and-effect relationships such as "if you push this block, the whole pile of blocks will fall over."

TWO-YEAR-OLD CHILDREN
Encourage toddlers to run, jump, and climb outside.
Sing simple songs with them.
Sing and act out songs with simple movements.
Play pat-a-cake.
Teach them simple finger plays.
Tell them simple, short stories (especially those about themselves or other two-year-old children).
Let them pound a toy workbench.
Let them play in a sandbox. Give them water to measure and pour.
Let them stack blocks and other objects.
Provide things that can be taken apart and put back together (such as pop beads).
Ask children to name things in the pictures of picture books. Give them the correct word if they cannot think of it.
Give them simple directions to follow.
Play matching games and use simple puzzles with them.
Encourage pretending by providing dolls, housekeeping toys, dress-up clothes, and toy telephones.
Introduce art activities such as scribbling and/or painting with crayons, chalk, and paint.
Provide play dough and finger paint.
Begin toilet training when the toddler is ready. Also, begin teaching hand washing and tooth brushing.
Encourage the development of routines.

yippy_yaya

谢谢阿兰！！！
我女儿也算是toddler了。。。。
他真的开始jealous ppl and not very sharing her toys to others kids...

你的女儿快两岁了。。。
还好吧！！！

我好羡慕芷翎有一头亮丽的黑发
我女儿是botak的

huh!! 好像都没看过你大肚的样子。。。
有空记得upload oh ...

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儿子去美国留学，毕业后定居美国。还给我找了个洋媳妇苏珊。如今，小孙子托比已经3岁了。今年夏天，儿子为我申请了探亲签证。在美国待了三个月，洋媳妇苏珊教育孩子的方法，令我这个中国婆婆大开眼界。

不吃饭就饿着

每天早上，托比醒来后，苏珊把早餐往餐桌上一放，就自顾自地忙去了。托比会自己爬上凳子，喝牛奶，吃面包片。吃饱后，他回自己的房间，在衣柜里找衣服、鞋子，再自己穿上。毕竟托比只有3岁，还搞不清楚子的正反面，分不清鞋子的左右脚。有一次托比又把裤子穿反了，我赶紧上前想帮他换，却被苏珊制止了。她说，如果他觉得不舒服，会自己脱下来，重新穿好；如果他没觉得有什么不舒服，那就随他的便。那一整天，托比反穿着裤子跑来跑去，苏姗像没看见一样。

又一次，托比出去和邻居家的小朋友玩，没多大会就气喘吁吁地跑回家，对苏珊说：“妈妈，露西说我的裤子穿反了，真的吗？”露西是邻居家的小姑娘，今年5岁。苏姗笑着说：“是的，你要不要换回来？”托比点点头，自己脱下裤子，仔细看了看，重新穿上了。从那以后，托比再也没穿反过裤子。

我不禁想起，我的外孙女五六岁时不会用筷子，上小学时不会系鞋带。如今在上寄宿制初中的她，每个周末都要带回家一大堆脏衣服呢。

一天中午，托比闹情绪，不肯吃饭。苏珊说了他几句，愤怒地小托比一把将盘子推到了地上，盘子里的食物洒了一地。苏姗看着托比，认真地说：“看来你确实不想吃饭！记住，从现在到明天早上，你什么都不能吃。”托比点点头，坚定地回答：“Yes!”我在心里暗笑，这母子俩，还都挺倔！

下午，苏珊和我商量，晚上由我做中国菜。我心领神会，托比告别爱吃中国菜，一定是苏珊觉得托比中午没好好吃饭，想让他晚上多吃点儿。

那天晚上我施展厨艺，做了托比最爱吃的糖醋里脊、油闷大虾，还用意大利面做了中国式的凉面。托比最喜欢吃那种凉面，小小的人可以吃满满一大盘。

开始吃晚饭了，托比欢天喜地地爬上凳子。苏珊却走过来，拿走了他的盘子和刀叉，说：“我们已经约好了，今天你不能吃饭，你自己也答应了的。”托比看着面容严肃的妈妈，“哇”地一声在哭起来，边哭边说：“妈妈，我饿，我要吃饭。”“不行，说过的话要算数。”苏珊毫不心软。

我心疼了，想替托比求情，说点好话，却见儿子对我使眼色。想起我刚到美国时，儿子就跟我说，在美国，父母教育孩子时，别人千万不要插手，即使是长辈也不例外。无奈，我只好保持沉默。

那顿饭，从始至终，可怜的小托比一直坐在玩具车里，眼巴巴地看着我们三个大人狼吞虎咽。我这才明白苏珊让我做中餐的真正用意。我相信，下一次，托比想发脾气扔饭碗时，一定会想起自己饿着肚子看爸爸妈妈和奶奶享用美食的经历。饿着肚子的滋味不好受，况且还是面对自己最喜爱的食物。

临睡前，我和苏珊一起去向托比道晚安。托比小心翼翼地问：“妈妈，我很饿，现在我能吃中国面吗？”苏珊微笑着摇摇头，坚决地说：“不！”托比叹了口气，又问：“那等我睡完觉睁开眼睛时，可以吃吗？”“当然可以。”苏珊温柔地回答。托比甜甜地笑了。

大部分情况下，托比吃饭都很积极，他不想因为“罢吃”而错过食物，再受饿肚子的苦。每当看到托比埋头大口大口地吃饭，嘴上脸上粘的都是食物时，我就想起外孙女。她像托比这么大时，为了哄她吃饭，几个大人端着饭碗跟在她屁股后面跑，她还不买账，还要谈条件：吃完这碗买一个玩具，再吃一碗买一个玩具……

以其人之道，还治其人这身

有一天，我们带托比去公园玩。很快，托比就和两个女孩儿玩起了厨房游戏。塑料小锅、小铲子、小盘子、小碗摆了一地。忽然，淘气的托比拿起小锅，使劲在一个女孩儿头上敲了一下，女孩儿愣了一下，放声大哭。另一个女孩儿年纪更小一些，见些情形，也被吓得大哭起来。大概托比没想到会有这么严重的后果，站在一旁，愣住了。

苏珊走上前，开清了事情的来龙去脉后，她一声不吭，拿起小锅，使劲敲到托比的头上，托比没防备，一下子跌坐在草地上，哇哇大哭起来。苏珊问托比：“疼吗？下次还这样吗？”托比一边哭，一边拼命摇头。我相信他以后再也不会这么做了。

托比的舅舅送了他一辆浅蓝色的小自行车，托比非常喜欢，当成宝贝，不许别人碰。邻居小姑娘露西是托比的好朋友，央求托比好几次，要骑他的小车，托比都没答应。

一次，几个孩子一起玩时，露西趁托比不注意，偷偷骑上小车，扬长而去。托比发现后，气愤地跑来向苏珊告状。苏珊正和几个孩子的母亲一起聊天喝咖啡，便微笑着说：“你们的事情自己解决，妈妈可管不了。”托比无奈地走了。

过了一小会儿，露西骑着小车回来了。托比看到露西，一把将她推倒在地，抢过了小车。露西坐在地上大哭起来。苏珊抱起露西，安抚了她一会儿。很快，露西就和别的小朋友兴高采烈地玩了起来。

托比自己骑了会车，觉得有些无聊，看到那几个孩子玩得那么高兴，他想加入，又觉得有些不好意思。他蹭到苏珊身边，嘟囔道：“妈妈，我想跟露西他们一起玩。”苏珊不动声色地说：“那你自己去找他们啦！”“妈妈，你陪我一起去。”托比恳求道。“那可不行，刚才是你把露西弄哭的，现在你又想和大家玩，就得自己去解决问题。”

托比骑着小车慢慢靠近露西，快到她身边时，又掉头回来。来回好几次，不知道从什么时候开始，托比和露西又笑逐颜开，闹成了一团。

管教孩子是父母的事

苏珊的父母住在加利福尼亚州，听说我来了，两人开车来探望我们。家里来了客人，托比很兴奋，跑上跑下地乱窜。他把玩沙子用的小桶装满了水，提着小桶在屋里四处转悠。苏珊警告了她好几次，不要把水洒到地板上，托比置若罔闻。最后，托比还是把水桶弄倒了，水洒了一地。兴奋的小托比不觉得自己做错了事，还得意地光着脚丫踩水玩，把裤子全弄湿了。我连忙找出拖把准备拖地。苏珊从我手中抢过拖把交给托比，对他说：“把地拖干，把湿衣服脱下来，自己洗干净。”托比不愿意，又哭又闹。苏珊二话不说，直接把他拉到贮藏室，关了禁闭。听到托比在里面发出惊天动地的哭喊，我心疼坏了，想进去把他抱出来。托比的外婆却拦住我，说：“这是苏珊的事。”

过了一会儿，托比不哭了，他在贮藏室里大声喊：“妈妈，我错了。”苏珊站在门外，问：“那你知道该怎么做了吗？”“我知道。”苏珊打开门，托比从贮藏室走出来，脸上还挂着两行泪珠。他拿起有他两个高的拖把吃力地把地上的水拖干净。然后，他脱下裤子，拎在手上，光着屁股走进洗手间，稀里哗啦地洗起衣服来。

托比的外公外婆看着表情惊异的我，意味深长地笑了。这件事让我感触颇深。在很多中国家庭，父母管教孩子时，常常会引起“世界大战”，往往是外婆外公护，爷爷奶奶拦，夫妻吵架，鸡飞狗跳。

后来，我和托比的外公外婆聊天时，提到这件事，托比的外公说了一段话，让我印象深刻。他说，孩子是父母的孩子，首先要尊重父母对孩子的教育方式。孩子虽然小，却是天生的外交家，当他看到家庭成员之间出现分歧时，他会很聪明地钻空子。这不仅对改善他的行为毫无益处，反而会导致问题越来越严重，甚至带来更多别的问题。而且，家庭成员之间发生冲突，不和谐的家庭氛围会带给孩子更多的不安全感，对孩子的心理发展产生不利影响。所以，无论是父辈与祖辈在教育孩子的问题上发生分歧，还是夫妻两人的教育观念有差异，都不能在孩子面前发生冲突。

托比的外公外婆在家里住了一周，准备回加利福尼亚了。临走前两天，托比的外公郑重地问女儿：“托比想要一辆玩具挖掘机，我可以买给他吗？”苏珊想了想，说：“你们这次来，已经送给他一双旱冰鞋作为礼物了，到圣诞节时，再买玩具挖掘机当礼物送给他吧！”

我不知道托比的外公是怎么告诉小家伙的，后来我带托比去超市，他指着玩具挖掘机说：“外公说，圣诞节时，给我买这个当礼物。”语气里满是欣喜和期待。

虽然苏珊对托比如此严格，托比去却对妈妈爱得不得了。他在外面玩时，会采集一些好看的小花或者他认为漂亮的叶子，郑重其事地送给妈妈；别人送给他礼物，他会叫妈妈和他一起拆开；有什么好吃的，也总要留一半给妈妈。

想到很多中国孩子对父母的漠视与冷淡，我不得不佩服我的洋媳妇。在我看来，在教育孩子的问题上，美国妈妈有很多值得中国妈妈学习的地方

爱熙冕

恭喜阿兰哦 。。。。

all

谢谢阿兰！！！
我女儿也算是toddler了。。。。
他真的开始jealous ppl and not very sharing her toys to others kids...

你的女儿快两岁了。。。
还好吧！！！

我好羡慕芷翎有一头亮丽的黑发
我女儿是botak的

huh!! 好像都没看过你大肚的样子。。。
有空记得upload oh ...
yippy_yaya 发表于 18-6-2010 05:29 PM

是咯，TODDLER就很坏蛋了
很多时候不听话，故意做作对的

我的女儿现在２０个月，还有四个月才两岁
现在是超级不听话的呢，只是小部分的时候听话而已

芷翎是有剃过两次BOTAK
老人家说这样比较容易生头发

不要啦，不要在论坛放上我的照片，放我的孩子的照片就没问题

all

恭喜阿兰哦 。。。。
爱熙冕 发表于 26-6-2010 12:58 AM

谢谢

weiwei1111

好像看过楼主的网名。
无论如何，恭喜你了。日子和我预产期很靠近哦！

all

在游泳池旁边，我们和芷翎一起玩
芷翎第一次喝YOGURT JUICE，你看她喝到几开心

all

好像看过楼主的网名。
无论如何，恭喜你了。日子和我预产期很靠近哦！
weiwei1111 发表于 29-6-2010 02:41 PM

哦，你的预产期是几时呢？
第一胎吗？恭喜恭喜

weiwei1111

哦，你的预产期是几时呢？
第一胎吗？恭喜恭喜
all 发表于 30-6-2010 01:28 PM

谢谢。对的第一胎。
预产期是12月14号。
你的女儿很可爱。刚刚贴上的照片笑到很灿烂哦！