谁好心能帮我改下这篇blog，我觉得前半段啰嗦了

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请问有没有好心人能帮我改下这篇blog，我觉得前半段啰嗦了
但自己又不知道该怎么才能改得更好， 多谢啊 恭喜发财

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Yesterday, when reviewing one of my favorite books, <7 habits of highly effective family> by Steven Covey, a sentence moved me again.  He wrote, an easygoing, open-minded person will appreciate those differences between us: because God had given everyone of us 4 gifts.  If our friends have 4 different gifts from us, after we share with them, we will have totally 8 gifts to enjoy.  If we only stop with the people are same as us, only want to be friends with the people come from the same culture, have the same interest, we will have only 4 gifts throughout our lives.
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In college is the same, students have different goals and different background.  Especially in the Sunway College, we even came from different countries.  It should be a good thing, but normally we only like to say hello to our friends, like some of Chow King’s friends.
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Chow King was a good guy, he wanted to be friends with others, since I usually took Mini Bus 66 from KTM to college same with him every morning, and came back each afternoon, and I also had MIP tutorial same with him, so I knew him well.  Compare with some of his friends, he seldom skipped any class, liked to think, very sensitive, which also led to his car accident, after watching the European League during the midnight, and pressed himself to school for a Business Statistics class and fell into sleep on the way driving back to his home.
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But, for normal people, it is not really understandable, because Soccer Leagues just go every year, every month, every day.  Our MIP lecturer asked everyone in class, what would Chow King have lost if he only missed watching once?
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In my point of view, some of his friends.  I mean some of his friends, not all his friends, are very different from Chow King: they didn’t want to be friends with everyone.  Some of them, if u say “Morning” to them, they just ignore u, since u r not their friends.  If u r not same as them, u like to read books, they like sports, they will not only say u r boring, they will say u r stupid, they will laugh at u, think u r hopeless.  They like to very strongly and negatively descript the people who are different from them.  You are rubbish if u don’t have the same tattoo as them, if u don’t same smoking as them, if u study when there is no exam tomorrow.
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Yap, what I say is “Peer Pressure”, which is common and each youth will have to experience it when he is youth.  But because Chow King’s friends like to be fashion, to be cool, to be men, to use strong negative description, Chow King would have experienced a bit higher pressure than other youth of his age.
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Quite a bit higher peer pressure. He liked to watch Soccer Games which is nothing wrong.  But when if he didn’t watch the soccer game on that night before his death, and his friends would laugh at him of trying to be a bookworm, to be a good student, would say him stupid, would ask him to get away from them, it would not just be a usual Soccer Game that he afforded to miss.  
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For the same reason, as he felt drowsy on driving back home, he didn’t dare to stop aside of the highway, since, might be one of his friends also passed by and saw him, the friend would possibly broadcast it and all of his friends would laugh at him of trying to be a safe driver.
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Of course, only Chow King knew the exact peer pressure, which made him not dare to sleep aside of the road for a while and add up the last straw to his death.  But there are many researches already tell us how to avoid unordinary peer pressure and also how to give less peer pressure to our friends: the best way?  Is to be an easygoing person and find easygoing people to be our friends.
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In the book, <7 Habits of Highly Effective Family>, the famous family relation professionals, had listed some features of an easygoing person:

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1.       A calm person will not use strong words to descript others. They seldom say the words like, “f*ck”, “bitch”, “pervert” or “stupid”.  It is not fashion, it is only rude.  If they feel u r wrong, they would only say “that’s not good”, “that is not exactly”, they will care ur feelings.
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2.       If they want to be more like men, they will go gyms; go swimming to build their muscles.  They will not try to be like men by smoking, by being anti-social, by being rude, by skipping classes, nor be unsafe drivers.
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3.       They appreciate others’ differences, not laugh at differences.
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4.       They will not shout at their friends just for some small matters, like a bad joke, a wrong sentence or a different opinion.  Think about it, if someone will just split up 10-year relationship with u for a very tiny dispute, for a soccer game, is it really worth have him as ur best friend?
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5.       Once their friend is in a hot temper, they will say “sorry” towards their friends’ feeling, regardless they are right or wrong.
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6.       They will not laugh at others life style.  Today, they are laughing at a hardworking student; tomorrow, they sneer at you want to be a safe driver, a woman driver; the day after tomorrow, they mock u of your keeping good accountancy of your business.  It will put down your fortune and your life.  It is ok to have a friend to smoke to release his or her own pressure; it is not ok to have a friend who will drag u to take drugs with them together.
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I truly agree with the author, “At the time refusing to say ‘morning’ back to a person who is not in a guy’s circle, he is also threatening those people who are already inside his circle.”  Believe me, that feeling is more harmful to who is inside.  God bless Chow King for his life in heaven.

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